As I've mentioned, it's been a bit of a roller coaster lately, but there's so much to feel good about. I have been so caught up in my thoughts, I have barely had time to breathe in the moments surrounding me.
Taking a quote from another one of the men in my life, Mr. John Mayer, "Take all of your so-called problems, better put 'em in quotations." I've wasted enough time wallowing in my own problems, which I might as well just put in quotations. Sure, I've got some things that I'm dealing with right now, but it's definitely nothing close to what I've had to deal with in the past; and it's nothing compared to the problems that some of even some of the kindergartners at Dolores Mission have to deal with daily. Just this past week, my roommate Katie told me about a little boy--a five year old boy--who told her about his father who had been killed by a gang member. He sat there on the bench next to Katie, swinging his feet back and forth, describing a situation that no five-year-old should be able to recount.
Last weekend, Katie and I were invited to attend a Dodger's game with the rest of the Dolores Mission faculty. We were watching the game (might I add from a donated luxury suite!) when the principal of DM, Karina, described one of the shootings that happened last year. The day started like any other, the eighth grade class was outside in the parking lot for their PE class when some of the kids spotted a group of five men running down the street, bandanas covering their faces from their eyes down, each of them holding an AK-47. They were shooting at a rivaling gang. The kids immediately dropped to the ground, following what they call the "pancake drill." They knew exactly what to do, just like they had practiced during drills. It's normal. It's routine. Just like a fifth grade me knew exactly what to do when the fire alarm or the--God forbid--tornado alarm went off. These kids know exactly what to do when they see armed, angry men running down the street ready to shoot for the kill. Karina ended the story by saying the day went by very smoothly. It is scary, she said, how good her students and faculty had become at handling the "pancake drill." Last Spring, it was used weekly.
Routine.
The run-down of this past week:
Sunday~ Jeff Baucher visited Ita Ford and took me out to lunch downtown! It was amazing to see him, and my roomies LOVED him because he brought four or five bags of groceries and goodies to us! Typical Jeff! The most amazing part about seeing Jeff was that he had realized that the cemetery a few blocks from my house is where his grandfather and a few other family members are buried. His grandfather had grown up in Boyle Heights--the area that I work in used to be populated by mostly Italians. This really hit me because Jeff and I have had some amazing conversations about the way our grandparents have impacted our lives, and how we are still in awe of their love. We really have connected through our love of family. So, Jeff and I went to visit the graves of his family members, and ended up standing by his grandfather's grave, silently praying, for a few moments. It was an honor to be welcomed into his life in this way.
Monday~Went to work, got through the most part of the day feeling like complete crap, and finally couldn't go on any longer, so I took off a little after noon. I went home, and feeling overwhelmed and tired of this constant fatigue and sickness, I reached out to my parents and one of my best friends. I wanted answers. Should I stay? Should I leave? I was so angry that I had to cancel the first day of Aliso Pico Dance Co, the kids were pretty disappointed, too. But, it was probably best that I got rest that night.
Tuesday~ One of the highlights of Tuesday was that we started meditations with the eighth graders. I have been experimenting with writing meditations on the weekly Gospels. A few of us that work for the parish meet with 4-5 eighth grade students for about 50 minutes every Tuesday. We start by reading the Gospel, we then go into the meditation, afterwards they answer a couple of reflection questions, we share our reflections with one another, we then anoint one another's hands with oil, and end in a pass-around prayer. My group consists of five girls...and I was really impressed with their openness and ability to reflect at a deeper level! I'm excited to share this experience with them every week.
Wednesday~ highlight: Jesuit Charities Golf Tournament. Paula and I got to sit at a table at the Rosebowl and hand out goody bags/polo shirts to the golfers. It was pretty fun to spend time with the faculty outside of work, and to meet some of the big shots who provide funding for Dolores Mission. I love messing/joking around with the older men (not in a creepy, weird way, I swear), but it was fun to get to talk to them for a bit. That night, Paula and I had our first Scholar's Meeting. This is for all of the alumni of DM that received a scholarship to go onto Catholic High Schools. We expected around 40 teens to show up. Oh, and they did. In a liiiiittle room. 40 TEENS. Did I say TEENS? I don't want to even start on how that went. Just use your imagination.
Thursday~ Two highlights. Thursday morning, I got to talk to my Kelsey who is doing JVC in San Antonio. She is a constant reminder of the presence of God in my life, and love is constantly overpouring from her heart. The second highlight was our Youth Group that night. Not as many kids showed up on Thursday (which was a nice break from the night before), there were only about 7 of them. But, we got to have a great conversation. We watched a few scenes from Mean Girls and talked about the issue of gossip. Each of the kids had a lot to say about the issue, and I think it really was helpful to have an open conversation about why we gossip, why it hurts, why we shouldn't, and what we can do to strengthen ourselves and resist. It was helpful for everyone, including me.
Friday~ Highlights: Colleen's parents came to visit from Connecticut! They took Paula and I to lunch and then took all of our casamates out to dinner that night. It was so comforting to be with Mr. and Mrs. Kerrisk, I think we all felt a little more at home with some parental loving care :)
Weekend~ San Diego. What can I say? Something happened to me there. Something happened that left it's print on my heart so deeply that it can never be removed. I am captivated by the ocean, the beaches, the care-free lifestyle. But, mostly, I am captivated by the people that I have met there. I have met the most unreal, unfathomable, friends that I could ever imagine in San Diego. I don't know if I could get through this experience of JVC without their support and affirmations. Being so close to SD is an incredible blessing. To top it off, Paula Morreale joined my roomies and I for the weekend in SD. It felt amazing to be back, especially with Paula and my new friends by my side. We got to stay with Andy and Bryce, who are the silliest most welcoming hosts in the entire world. I cannot even get into how entertained we were by their company. We also were able to spend time with Kevo, which was incredible, and so very needed. We even got to go to a bar with our new 21 year old--Nina! Seeing these people and spending just a little bit of time reminded me of my reasons for being who I am. We got to surf on Saturday, did the Mission Beach scene that night, had a sleeping bag sleep over in Bryce's room, and on Sunday did a quick tour of SD by foot and car :) It was a breath of fresh air. I already can't wait to get back there.
Life goes up and it goes down. We cry and we laugh. And then there's the space. The space that "keeps us coming back for more." I talked to my amazing cousin Stina this past week. She told me how for her birthday, instead of receiving presents, she asked for donations for my dance company. Stina raised $300 for me to buy the kids dance shoes and clothing--I cannot even begin to express how much this means to me. There are no words. And then there's my other cousins Stacy and Jess and my friend Lorena who have been asking how they can go about sending their old dance wear to help the cause. People are incredible. This past Friday, Paula and I were invited to the 3rd grade classroom to help celebrate Father Scott and the 3rd grade teacher's birthdays. The kids presented Father Scott with a birthday card that each of them had signed. One of the kids wrote, "Happy Birthday, Fathers God." Father-sGod....Father Scott. The space between.